Gen 2:18 And the Lord said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Mt 20:28 Even as the Son of man came not to be ministered unto, but to minister, and to give His life as a ransom for many.
God designed me to be my husband's helper. Am I doing that?
I should not be in competition with my husband, but encouraging and supporting him.
Phil 2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better then themselves.
It is my decision whether or not I will serve my husband.
Phil 2:7 But made Himself of no reputation, and took upon Him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:
Mt 20:26 But it shall not be so among you: but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister.
:27 And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant.
Am I willingly serving my husband? Am I doing it with the right attitude/heart? Do I ever resent serving him? I will be honest and admit that sometimes I just don't want to serve him. Maybe he did or said something that hurt my feelings. Maybe I am upset about something he didn't do or say that I wanted him to do or say. Whatever the reason, the word says I was created to be a helpmeet to him. It is ordained by God. I can't go by my feelings and pick and choose when I will serve him. I must be doing it in order to serve my Lord and Savior if I want to do it with the right heart. Anything is easier to do even on a bad day if we are doing it for the Lord.